Understanding Childhood Trauma that Doesn’t Feel Like Trauma with Chelsea Green (Replay)
In this replay from 2021, Gervase is getting publicly therapized with soulmate and licensed professional counselor Chelsea Green. Chelsea speaks such wisdom about how the systems that we are surrounded by as children, translate into our adult life. The conversation is sprinkled with mic drop moment after mic drop moment from the choices that we face everyday to how we can calibrate our roles in the patriarchal society.
Chelsea is a Licensed Professional Counselor providing integrative mental health therapy in Charleston, SC. Her therapy practice specializes in working with adults, couples, and families in the midst of life transitions, relationship stress, trauma recovery, family systems, anxiety, depression, and stress. She is also a family constellation group facilitator and a visual artist who merges her many talents to curate transformative experiences.
BIG NEWS is on the way!
Stay in the loop by signing up for the newsletter: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/newsletter
Connect with Chelsea
Follow Chelsea on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chelseagreencreates/
Connect with Gervase
on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos
Get my weekly emails: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/free-framework
Private Coaching Spots Open:
Book a Soul Shift Intensive to apply: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/the-soul-shift-intensive
*If you'd like to invite Gervase into your company to facilitate coaching or conversation to shift company culture, please email us at hi@gervasekolmos.com
What if the reason you struggle to speak from your heart isn’t because you don't know what to say, but because you've forgotten how to connect with yourself first? Most of us want deeper connection, but we’re so stuck in our heads, running on adrenaline instead of presence.
This week, Gervase sits down with best-selling author and international consultant Katie Hendricks to explore how to make the journey from head to heart and discover the practical tools that make authentic connection possible.
Katie reveals why most of us are walking around “from the neck up,” running on adrenaline instead of presence, and how this disconnection affects everything—from how we show up with our partners, to how we navigate conflict, to how we experience our own lives. She shares practical tools for reconnecting with your body, giving yourself nourishing attention, and moving through the world with your heart open, even when it feels scary.
Listen to this episode now to discover:
The simple “hmm” technique that shifts you from criticism to curiosity (and opens the pathway between your head and heart)
Why most people live “from the neck up” and how this keeps you running on adrenaline instead of true presence
Katie’s “loop of awareness” practice—how to circulate attention between yourself and others so you don’t get lost in your head, or lost in others
How to ask yourself “How am I experiencing this in my body right now?” and why this question changes everything
Why opening your heart feels scary and how to move around the fear instead of forcing through it
The difference between giving attention from adrenaline versus presence and why one nourishes while the other depletes
How to separate “stuff talk” and “heart talk” so business doesn't block heart connection with your partner
How to shift from seeing your partner as a “fixer upper” to an evolving work of art
The game-changing concept of a “no blame relationship” and how to create one
What if you came to Earth with a divine design and a map of your life already written in the stars?
This week, Gervase sits down with Carol Allen, a Vedic astrologer with 34 years of experience to explore how this ancient system can offer profound insights into your life's purpose, relationships, and spiritual path.
This isn't your typical horoscope chat. Carol shares how Vedic astrology—practiced for thousands of years in India—reveals your “celestial DNA” and why understanding your divine design can free you from the Western pressure to be something maybe you’re not meant for, and help you live in alignment with your soul’s true destiny.
Listen to this episode now to discover:
Why Vedic astrology is different from Western astrology and how it works as “ancient technology” for understanding your soul's path
How your chart is your celestial DNA, a snapshot of the Universe the moment you took your first breat
Why Western hyperindividualism is making us miserable and how ancient wisdom shows us we're all interconnected frequency beings
The concept of dharma and why you're not meant to force yourself into someone else's blueprint for success
Why finding love isn't just about you, it's about both people's destinies aligning and what this means for taking pressure off yourself
How to live at “the level of love” by being who you're truly here to be
How vedic astrology can help you parent based on who your child actually is (as they come “pre-loaded at the factory”)
How your chart reveals your natural gifts, relationship patterns, and even physical characteristics with stunning accuracy
The cyclical nature of life and why expecting constant progression is making us miserable and exhausted
What if every challenging experience in your life—the difficult relationships, the heartbreak, the family drama—wasn't happening TO you, but was actually teaching you where you still needed to grow? This week, Gervase shares the spiritual psychology framework that has helped her reframe triggers, move through some of life’s most traumatic events, and no longer be affected by other people’s perception of her.
This isn't about spiritual bypassing. It's about understanding that you're a soul having a human experience, and Earth is literally school for your consciousness.
Listen to this episode now to discover:
Why you’re a soul having a human experience, and how to view life’s challenges as a video game so you can move to the next level in your journey
Why Earth Stackers (spiritual allies) keep sending you the same lessons until you learn them (spoiler: your triggers are your curriculum)
3 powerful questions to ask yourself when you’re feeling triggered so it no longer has power over you
The difference between religion and spirituality that allows you to connect with the divine without the dogma
How to shift from “I am upset because…” (victim mode) to “how can I take my power back” (spiritual boss mode)
Why your most difficult relationships are actually your greatest teachers (and how to work with them instead of against them)
The ONE question that can reveal your bigger intention in life
Hey Mamas, let’s be YOU again, while raising them:
Introducing Whole Mother Rising, a 4 week mini-mastermind for mothers who are ready to reclaim their power, purpose, and joy… without guilt.
Because the world has endless advice on how to be a mom, but almost nothing to help you be YOURSELF while mothering.
Check it out here: https://gervasekolmos.podia.com/whole-mother-rising
What if the key to getting hard tasks done when you’re overwhelmed (or just bored!) isn’t willpower—but more pleasure? This week, Gervase shares how to work with your nervous system by infusing your daily life with pleasure and intentionality when you want to give up.
This isn’t about numbing out or pushing through. It’s about tending to yourself so you can stay in the game instead of burning out or bailing when things get tough.
Hit play now to discover:
The kitchen sink saga that sparked this episode, and why it’s Gervase’s North Star when it comes to her business, parenting and I getting sh*tty tasks done (aka: never-ending admin!)
The ONE question to ask yourself when you want to bail on a hard task so you can stay in the game without burning out
Why adding just 1% more pleasure can ease overwhelm, help you get the thing done, and soothe your nervous system
How intention anchors you when motivation is low and pressure is high
How to stay in the “uncomfortable middle” when you want to quit your job (and burn it all down!)
If you’re tired of grinding your way through resistance (or giving up and regretting it later) and you’d like to adopt a more joyful, soul-honoring way of being during these moments, this short and simple episode is for you.
For this week’s podcast, I brought along a friend… high-performance relationship coach and gender dynamics social scientist, Katarina Polonska! In this episode, we discuss how to make the difficult decision of whether to stay or leave a relationship, how to navigate messy power struggles, and how to move from individualism to collaboration to build stronger, more connected relationships. Yep, we cover it all!
Watch this episode now to discover:
The #1 way to get clarity on whether you should stay or leave a relationship (hint: the result is win-win: you either transform the relationship or you leave and find someone who is more aligned)
The 6-month strategy to "clean up your side of the street" and find undeniable clarity
The blame game that often happens in the power struggle phase of a relationship when our wounds (aka: sneaky unaddressed demons) like to come out
The responsibility we have to try and understand our partner's needs and to hold them AND ours with equal importance
How we've moved away from being collaborative in relationships to being individualistic and believing our needs matter more than our partners
A mindset shift that can help you have a better relationship with your in-laws and extended family (even if you couldn't be more yin and yang!)
About Katarina Polonska:
Katarina is a high-performance relationship coach and gender dynamics social scientist who specializes in helping people make clear relationship decisions. Her expertise in attachment theory, behavioral science of attraction, and the cultural influences on relationships provides a unique framework for understanding and transforming relationship patterns.